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Overcoming Resistance: A Path to Your Dreams

25 Aug

Did you know the most frustrated person in the world is someone who has a dream but allows resistance to keep them from the very dream that could change their lives and the lives of others? Resistance is anything that keeps one from starting or completing the vision of one’s life. It shows up anytime we want to start and rarely surrenders. So, let’s identify what resistance is:

  1. It’s the life we live and the life we truly want and what lies between is resistance.
  2. It is evil and keeps us from the intended life God has for us.
  3. It is a toxic environment, one that is rooted in unhappiness and keeps us stunted and less than we were born to be.

What are its characteristics?

  1. It’s “invisible and cannot be seen, touched, heard, or smelled, but it can be felt” Steven Pressfield”
  2. It is the internal enemy that rises from within us.
  3. It will tell us anything to keep us from doing what we know we should be doing.
  4. It is determined to stop us from achieving our goals and dreams.

How do we overcome resistance?

  1. Master the fear of anything that keeps us from pursuing the life we truly want by getting started, being consistent, not procrastinating, sticking to our plan, and understanding that if we want the life we have always envisioned and dreamed about, then we are going to have to push through any and all distractions.
  2. Be determined.
  3. Make it a game every morning to overcome the resistance.
  4. Don’t say but do.
  5. Never make excuses for not doing what it will take to press toward your goals and dreams.
  6. Accept responsibility for the outcomes each day
  7. Never be afraid to start, just start.
  8. Don’t be too hard on yourself.
  9. Keep your eye on the prize.

Remember, resistance wants us to fail and will keep us from having the life we truly desire. So, keep your head in the game and never give up.

“Our whole life is set up in the path of least resistance. We don’t want to suffer. We don’t want to feel discomfort. So the whole time, we’re living our lives in a very comfortable area. There’s no growth in that.” David Goggins

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Essential Traits for Success in Business and Life

24 Aug

Would you like to be noticed and valued? Well, there are three difinite attributes you will need to develope to become the most noticed and valued business or person. If we were to drill down even further these attributes will contribute to your success as they relate to family, friends, or organizations you may belong.

First is Loyalty and is know to be foundational in any relationship, be it business or personal. According to Webster’s online dictionary, loyalty means to form a strong alliance and to have a strong feeling of support. It is also defined as faithfulness to commitments or obligations. As an example: you will find favor and reward for complete loyalty to your employer and personal relationships for remaining faithful and committed to those relationships. Do not become swayed by others who may be disgruntled to abandon those relationships. If need be seperate yourself from anyone not committed to the alliance. In doing so you will reveal traits that are highly valued like, trust, respect, and reliability. Never, no never disrespect those who have been gracious enough to hire you, to be your friend, or receive you into their organization. However, if you find that any of these relationships become troublesome, make a graceful exit.

Second is a strong work ethic one that is determined to see the task at hand completed despite any difficulties that arise. It begins with reliability. Your relationships must see your dependability and consistencey. Reliability is a good indicator of your character. No matter what, be reliable. Next you must maintain a positive attitude. Make sure to associate with positive, uplifting people, read good books, listen to podcast that are uplifting and helpful and speak well of yourself and others. Remember also, that being accountable and taking the initiative by going beyond the basic task and seeking ways to improve will get you noticed and valued.

Last and maybe most important is character. Your character will open many doors to greater opportunities than any other trait. Character involves your mental and moral qualities along with your reputation. You do not want to be know in any way for your escapades. Ruin your reputation and you have most likely sidelined yourself from what could have been in that relationship and possibly others. Remember to protect your reputation. Do not hang with those you would not like to become for any reason. Keep your eye on your goals and what you want most out of life.

Here are three quotes to end this blog:

“I place an emormous premium on loyalty. If someone betrays me, I can forgive them rationally, but emotionall I have found it impossible to do so.” Richard E. Grant

“What you do is what matters, not what you think or say or plan.” Jason Fried

“Character makes trust possible, and trust is the foundation of leadership.” John Maxwell

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“What’s Love got to do with it?”

22 Dec

Did you know that love is the core, the very foundation of everything? Most of us are so busy trying to live, we neglect the key that unlocks what we are truly looking for and that is love. Without love, our very lives spiral out of control. We begin, “looking for love in all the wrong places”. We become preoccupied and selfish, which leads to conflict, resentments, and a breakdown in our relationships. What we really need is to be altruistic, the very opposite of being selfish and self-centered.

Norman Vincent Peale, in his book, “The Powerful Way To Change Your Life”, challenged people in every walk of life to practice the golden rule of loving people. He gave many examples of salesman and business owners who loved, served, and treated others as they would like to be treated, which in turn made for a more prosperous outcome in their personal and professional lives.

So, if we really want to make a difference, we must become selfless by first making an examination of ourselves. In doing this, we must look at ourselves truthfully in a mirror and confront any characteristics that would isolate ourselves from others. Those characteristics might include a lack of self-confidence, anxiety, being an isolationist, concerned only for oneself, or having no regard for anyone else. Once a complete examination has be exhausted, we must make the necessary transformations. We can find this type of help through good books, podcast, seminars, blogs, or even professional help. Once we’ve identified our alienating characteristics, we must help others think more highly of themselves. We can do this by deliberately and consciously helping other people feel better about themselves by being interested in them as a person. Point out all you can that is positive about a person whenever possible. Third, always be available to help people in the stormy times in their lives, they will never forget the help and in turn someone may come to your aid when you hit a ruff spot in life. And finally, the most important. Genuinely love people. For people always know when they are loved and will respond in love.

In recapping, people really will love us, when we love them! So, remember: 1. Confront and make the necessary adjustments to your character. 2. Make a conscious effort to help people feel better about themselves. 3. Render aid to people. And in finalizing the steps, genuinely love people. You just can’t go wrong by remembering to “love one another” (John 15:17).

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Who’s at Your Gate?

19 Dec

Did you know, there is a story about a very rich man who lived every day in the greatest of luxury? His wardrobe was quite exquisite, and he was known for his great wealth. One day, a beggar, who was covered in sores and longing just for something to eat, had been laid at the entrance gate of the rich man’s home. This beggar was only hoping to eat what fell from the rich man’s table and nothing more. What’s interesting is that the dogs which were in the area cared more for this man than the rich man. For the dogs at least noticed, approached the beggar and licked his sores. The rich man ignored the beggar even though he had the means to care for all his needs, from food to medical care. But the story goes even deeper than just the rich man’s lack of concern for others, it reveals a man who ignored truth, because he was so caught up in his wealth.

As the story goes both the beggar and the rich man eventually died, the beggar to an eternal life of comfort, and the rich man to one of agony. The rich man, who would be tormented in the place of hell forever could see the beggar in a different place than he, a place of eternal comfort. Seeing this, he wanted the beggar to bring him relief, but it was not possible for their eternal destinies had been set. When this realization was evident to the rich man, he requested that the beggar be sent from his place of comfort to his five brothers, to warn them of the place of torment. He thought that if someone from the dead would go to them, they would repent. However, he was told that if his brothers would not listen to truth, they would not be convinced even though someone rose from the grave.

This story really can be life changing for us all. You see, everyone is concerned about life after death. I know that is a chilling statement, but study after study reveals people are concerned about this very topic. The older, if we’re so fortunate, and the closer to death we get, the topic of life after death becomes important. Having this knowledge, the story above reveals that truth takes precedent over all things. Not, money, fame, or earthly comforts. We must listen for the truth! And truth does not kill, steal, or destroy, but gives life, abundant and eternal.

The rich man cared only for himself, not his brothers, or even a crippled, sore covered, hungry man, laid at his very gate. He refused to listen to truth, which ended for him in eternal torment and possibly that of his brothers too, if they followed his example. Truth really does matter, and the rich man came face to face with truth after his death. His story being told is so important for us all. It gives each of us an opportunity to assess our earthly lives, listen to the truth, and care for others.

This may lead us to ask, “What is truth?”, which was asked by another historical figure, Pontius Pilate during the trial of Jesus recorded in the New Testament Gospels of the Bible and by Tacitus and Josephus who were historical writers of the times. Jesus in an earlier conversation with his disciples stated, “…I am the way, the truth, and the life…” (John 16:6a). If we are listening, then truth is a person and we should be listening to Him, (Jesus) and no other. The rich man came face to face with truth, learning too late the consequences of not listening, not repenting, and the neglecting others has on one’s destiny.

Truth would ask for our attention. It would not ask for us to steal, kill, or destroy, in any fashion. Truth would want us to share or even give our lives for others, so that they too could live their eternal life in comfort and not torment. Are we listening to Truth? As stated earlier, truth can be found in Jesus, who is the Truth. Let us call out to Him and He will reveal Truth to us. So, the question is, “Who’s at your gate?” Life or Death? Comfort or Torment? We all get to choose!

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